Abusers are people too, thank you for stating what I have felt for so long. When people ask “How could you forgive him?” Because he is________.
If there is one thing I learned from the police transcript of a taped phone call between my brother and his final victim, it is how expertly abusers use their intentions to manipulate people:
The first time I read the transcript, I thought the jury could go either way (had my brother not died before the trial). His confession didn’t seem as cut-and-dry as the detective made it out to be on the affidavit for arrest.
But when I showed it to my husband, he said, “He was going down.” To him, it was as airtight as a guilty plea.
I couldn’t see it then, but I was still falling under my brother’s spell:
I was still internalizing his manipulations, still thinking: But he loved me. He’s no monster. He didn’t want to screw up my head.
Two years later, after getting over the initial shock and re-reading the transcript…
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